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MY JOURNEY..

There are thousands, more likely millions of similar stories. I decided not to include many details of my struggle, I am sure you can relate to all our common struggles..

 I was dealing with “issues” as early as my adolescence.  I will share  just the major parts during my adult years leading up to my “real recovery”..

The intensity of the trauma I experienced is well documented if anyone wished to question it…

The mission I created for this site is primarily focused on sharing with you a workable recovery system. My sharing with you, my enthusiasm, my experiences and knowledge are only possible as a result of an incredible process available to all of you, that’s if you make a commitment to your self second to none.

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Oh, and by the way ..if you have any negative thoughts at this moment.. criticizing my last remark…like ..”what works for you is not necessarily going to work for me or anyone else…” Please disregard that thought. That is a negative Introjected tape  that will be explained in greater detail later..Please trust me and at all cost...continue throughout the site...

As a matter of fact based on experience and observations we all have many similar traits in common. One of my clichés are, “What we all have in common I call “ Core Denominators” reflecting the many similar emotional issues and dysfunctional thoughts we are dealing with… and similar sources of origin…On how we all got to where we are will vary, but the bottom line " wounds" we are dealing with are similar in nature...

Being aware of the failure of typical main street therapies...Experiencing and observing successes with some very specific modalities not commonly practiced in Main Stream psychotherapy will convince you of the profound changes that are available to you…

A brief outline of my "story"...

It was not too long ago that I too was curled up on my couch in severe pain, feeling completely helpless and hopeless. A victim of my buried past and a slave to my addictions to alcohol, nicotine and food. My symptoms were identical to those of chronic clinical depression, Bi-Polar, PTSD, severe phobias, Adult Attention Deficit Disorder,narcissistic and frequent anxiety -panic attacks. All of those typical “ labels” that will only make the situation worse.. and get you hooked on medications…

All of the previous conditions can be explained and understood by the origins of how our emotions and thought programming is originated that will be explained later...

I had temporarily overcome several obstacles, crises and incredibly strong emotional feelings of chronic depression and the other symptoms noted above with a tremendous amount of will power, a bottle or two of Scotch and a few cartons of cigarettes. I also was a control freak.. trying to control how I felt. I used to be an “ Actor”.. hiding how I felt..what is probably considered " normal"...

 I too thought that all I had to do was to be successful.

Despite my limited education, I self educated myself made a major career shift , made several incredible achievements and was on my way to a very successful career.. but the symptoms were still there...as a matter of fact got worse !!

My drinking problem got worse.. had to stop.. I used an old trick by scaring the hell out of myself by following stories on TV and the local newspapers of DWI accidents …fortunately as a result convinced myself I had to stop drinking...

I stopped  December 31,1987. A New Years resolution...Believe or not never had one "slip" !

After I finally  stopped my number one addiction to drinking I had a major re occurrence of my depression and phobias and became completely incapacitated . The pain was so intense I could not work ..I eventually figured it out..after all that time the my drinking  had drowned out the severe emotional feelings I could not deal with...

I lost everything that I worked for my entire life. My Home, my business and most of my belongings...

I had to make some fast changes, needed to find some real answers once and for all. Over the years I read many books on psychology and tried several techniques with no real lasting effects. Had gone to a number of therapists with the same results.. nothing much. Psychiatrists asked me a few dumb questions..and within a couple minutes called it this or that ..then  pulled out their  prescription pad and wrote a prescription... Fortunately I was and still am anti-prescription  ..and very glad I am..

Not until I came across John Bradshaw in 1990 that directed me towards feeling work. Once this new can of worms were opened I became practically obsessed with my recovery. I had to... I was in real bad shape and it was my insanity that was at stake... Suddenly I didn't care about anything else accept to get better.. it became a Full Time job...

As my investigation expanded I read many of Mr. Bradshaw books .I also referred to the Bibliography and read many of the books that Mr. Bradshaw read and quoted. Went to a few workshops, Support Group meetings and did many of the exercises to help get me deeply in touch with my feelings. This all led me to my first Intensive which is a profound intense experience that really had a major impact on moving me out of the " Victim Stage" into a very aggressive, assertive Phase of my recovery. After experiencing tremendous success I searched for other answers as to how to deal with some severe anxiety and phobias I had and I was lead to the work of John Ruskan , Emotional Clearing that showed me I needed to apply the same basic work to ALL of my feelings. Up to this point the main focus on the feeling work was towards anger, grief and sadness.. In October 1994when my home was published locally for foreclosure…that week I quit smoking applying my feeling work to the addiction.. it took three weeks of hell…but I did it… With my knowledge of addictions and knowing I was not finished yet.. I knew that my addiction would probably lead me to a “food addiction”… so then…I applied the same principles to my food addiction and believe it not next few months lost over 25 pounds !!

Besides the feelings work I also had a major struggle with all of the "Crazies" going on in the head. I was able to be aware of them at times without acting them out.. observing them ..wondering what was going on... Here is where I found two major works .One by John Pollard on Self Parenting and one by Dr. Robert Firestone with his exhaustive research dealing with the “ Inner Voice”..

Dr. Firestone came up with an approach that was similar to the one I was using naturally ..where I was conscious of the Negative self talk.. and I talked back to it with tremendous anger… Dr Firestone calls  this procedure Voice Therapy and has a book of the same title. By applying both systems to myself and making the changes that were suggested has made an incredible change from within...

A typical Question...

Does it ever end ? Not quite ! But you can “process” over 90% of what needs to be done…Then as explained later in the revised Phase IV ( changes will be in progress fall of 2013 ) If and when any issues pop up that you need to deal with…you are completely prepared to process each and every time… The main difference is when this happens it will build your confidence, focus, insight and energies….

The processes that are discussed here ARE NOT JUST COPING SKILLS.

The processes here will HEAL the emotional trauma, CURE ADDICTION PERMANENTLY, and free you from the inner thought dialog that is extremely punishing, disrespectful, RELENTLESS AND ABOVE ALL..SELF DESTRUCTIVE…

Please do not allow your "Inner negative Dialog" from stopping you from investigating and trying some of the suggestions that are expressed here...

Summer 2013 Update… I have been away from the site for just over five years to deal with and adjust to a new personal situation…that turns out to be another validation of the entire process/ system outlined here…

In June 2008 while not feeling too well physically ..fortunately a past lady friend of mine  got on my case to get a check up… within an hour of the Doctors visit I found myself in an ambulance headed to the emergency room, then admitted. I had lost my kidneys…had to go on dialysis immediately and have been on dialysis for now five years.. This of course distracted me from completing my projects including this site… However I did realize that despite the circumstances and crisis…I was not bent out of shape emotionally! When I became aware of this it empowered me even more to pursue the completion of this site and the  promotion of the ARP Recovery System!

 

 

 

 

 

A Successful EXPERIENCE, not just another Theory...

This site is a reflection of what the author considers a very successful recovery from addictions, phobias and other common bi-polar symptoms including an EXTREME CASE OF DEPRESSION..

The results that are determined "a successful recovery" are defined so that the reader, YOU are in agreement ( SEE "RESULTS" Page ) prior to investigating the recovery further.

 If you are not in agreement with the "projected" results then this site is not for you.

The Author is not a psychologist , counselor or doctor. The Author is a layman who has been searching for over 30 years for the "right" answer for a CURE.

The concepts that are shared here are not of the Author Himself, but in most cases the concepts of licensed psychologists/psychiatrists..

One important fact is that there are two major concepts out in the field ..One deals with the conscious control of our thinking to control our self and control what is considered abnormal or destructive behavior.. whether the behavior is directed towards society or directed towards our self or loved ones. This approach IS ABSOLUTELY WRONG...

This part of the "polarization of theories" also implements the use of medications and other methods ( such as shock treatment ) to CONTROL the patient.. Both of these methods only deal with the symptoms and are not only wrong, unproductive but seriously damaging to the patient..  

If a therapist suggests suggest any of these methods THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING !!!!.. And another FACT IS THIS IS WHAT IS CONSIDERED TO BE MAINSTREAM MENTAL HEALTH...

That's why so many people are hurting, and are not getting better either after years and years of so called "Therapy"

Another major discussion will deal with the issue of addictions.. The mainstream approach to deal with addictions is Chemical Dependency.. This is not only in the wrong "Ball Park" it's not even the Right " Game" ( approach) ..this will also be discussed in detail.. on the addictions page.

On the other hand there is a ( growing ) minority that understands the origin of emotional trauma that we are dealing with and are applying a natural , effective means to CURE our trauma once and for all.

Granted the process is painful at first, however with specific SKILLS and with the correct APPROACH, the pain can be minimized......WITH OUTSTANDING RESULTS !!

On the other side of the coin dealing with our thought process there is a unique approach that once and for separates us cognitively from the negative, abusive inner dialog.. this approach will free us from the negative, abusive inner punishment and also will give us an actual ." CHOICE" with our interactions with our self  and others. This will be explained in greater detail later

And once again I'll repeat these applications are shared here based on actual experience...they are not just "another theory !" ..

 

" Once the discovery of the ultimate truth was EXPERIENCED as a result of a profound process, the DESIRE to ACCELERATE the transformation became apparent. The desire, the wish to end the pain and gain FREEDOM is not subjective by no means, but shared by everyone."

C.Barbarow 2003.

Before you look into this process further you may want to consider the results you may expect. The following page is a comparison of some before and after RESULTS that have been EXPERIENCED along with an article by a professional validating similar results.

 

 

RESULTS